Traits and Characteristics

What are Some Patterns of a Narcissist?
What are Some Characteristics of a Narcissist?

What are Some Patterns of a Narcissist?

  1. Narcissist Supply
    Narcissistic Supply is the term used for how narcissists use other people for their own needs and wants, and to uphold their grandiose self-image. It is the excessive need for admiration, approval, sympathy, empathy, or whatever the narcissist is looking for in others that he or she cannot find or do for themselves. Other individuals are only useful to the narcissist if they give them what they want. Narcissists will use any seductive techniques possible to attain narcissistic supply and once they do and time passes and the individual will want to retain their own identity or ask for what they gave in return and the narcissist will turn to devaluing them as another coping technique to turn the attention back on them.
  2. Projection
    Projection is the act of displacing one’s own not so desirable traits or actions onto someone else. This is also known as blame-shifting.
  3. Gas- lighting
    Narcissists use this technique to skew others perceptions of events, people, and so on to support the narcissists opinion on matters. A lot of the time narcissists will default to manipulation and lying creating an environment where the individual being exposed to gas-lighting will question their own memory, beliefs, or sanity.
  4. Narcissistic Injury
    Narcissistic Injury is any perceived threat from the perspective of a narcissist that does not align with their grandiose self-image. Threats can be direct such as insults, benign such as lighthearted jokes or far-fetched such as envy brought on from discussing a topic in which the other individual is more skilled at in relation to the narcissist. It can be anything from the narcissist feeling embarrassed to feeling wronged because someone disagreed with them. Narcissistic Injury ultimately leads to Narcissistic Rage.
  5. Narcissistic Rage
    Narcissistic Rage is the reaction brought on as a result of Narcissistic Injury. Narcissistic Rage, just like injury, can take many forms. It can be direct such as insults, put-downs, degrading comments, or indirect such as making comments that point out others vulnerabilities or weaknesses but in a covert way that only the one receiving it feels, passing off mean statements as jokes or taking actions against someone’s status, payroll, relationships, items, and the like. This can be very damaging to the recipient mentally and emotionally.

What are Some Characteristics of a Narcissist?

  1. Lack of empathy
    This is a universal across the board characteristic of narcissism. Narcissists do not have the capacity to feel what someone else is going through, to put themselves in someone else’s shoes, or realize what a person’s needs or wants are.
  2. Grandiose view of themselves
    The inflated ego. An ordinary accomplishment or task should is required to generate praise. Actions or ideas are blown out of proportion. There is a lack of humility in their persona.
  3. Lying
    Because of a narcissist’s tendency to retain a grandiose image of themselves lying is a tool that they use to sustain their trapped identity. It is an example of how the compulsion to uphold their superiority has no limits.
  4. Manipulation
    A narcissist does not have a developed sense of conscience. Therefore, they have the ability to use deceptive tactics to influence an individual’s actions, thoughts, words or behaviors.
  5. Hypocrisy
    There are no rules when it comes to what is allowed for a narcissist and what is allowed for their peers or loved ones. The narcissist who is setting any kind of ground rules is also not the one setting an example of them.
  6. Seduction
    Most narcissists make a very good first impression. They have built themselves up to be charming and charismatic. It is a very effective way for them to draw people in, building their narcissist supply.
  7. Blame
    The definition of blame is to place responsibility or fault onto someone else. A narcissist will project blame onto an innocent person as to relieve to them from any wrongdoing.
  8. Shame
    Ever heard of the term “You point one finger at someone and you are pointing three back at yourself?” This is the epitome of the narcissist. They use shaming as a technique to bring down others self-worth since a healthy sense of self-worth within them in almost non-existent. Many times you see narcissists gain energy from putting others down; it makes them feel better. Or at least, they think so.
  9. Judgment
    You hear a lot of narcissists say that they think they have a very good understanding of people. This is not entirely true yet they feel this way because their way of trying to understand people is mostly by creating judgments.
  10. Competition
    A desire for a narcissist to feel that they are best feeds their affinity towards competition. It can be anything from running the most profitable to business to whose teeth are whiter. You will find a lot of top executives and other ranking leaders to be narcissists because of their ability to be competitive.
  11. Envy
    Envy is different from jealousy in that envy is feeling discontentment or resentful from not having something as opposed to jealousy which is the fear of losing something. Narcissists will always have a grandiose view of themselves yet they can also see when someone else has something they don’t or if someone else is better at them at something. This disrupts their image of the idealized self and as a result, they turn to envy and sometimes can act on it as well.
  12. Sense of Entitlement
    A narcissist feels obliged to privileges or special treatment, many times without good reason. This goes along with the idea of narcissistic supply where everything is an extension of them and, therefore, to be used as they please.
  13. Negative Responses to Feedback/Criticism
    The narcissistic ego seems big, but because it is un-healthy it is easy to hurt the narcissist if something that is said does not go along with their grandiose image of themselves. The child that has never learned how to grow up responds as a result. This can often also lead to narcissistic rage.
  14. Delusion
    Narcissists live in their own world. They are completely delusional that they did anything wrong and in their world their grandiose self is completely true and no one else really understands their worth.
  15. Lack of Conscience
    It is very rare to ever hear the words “I’m sorry” from a narcissist. Instead, you will hear a plethora of justifications, excuses, or even blame. They can say and do some of the most awful things and not bat an eye. Lack of remorse in another example.
  16. Lack of an Emotional World
    Narcissists are not feelers. They are not known to use feelings unless it has a motive behind them. It is not because they don’t care; it is simply because they have not developed an emotional world from a young age.
  17. Addiction
    Due to the fact that narcissists lack an emotional world they are constantly trying to escape their own reality. This takes the form of addictions- drugs, alcohol, gambling, shopping, sex, and so forth.

Other Qualities of Narcissists

  • Lack of a sense of humor
  • Superficial
  • Superiority Complex
  • Materialistic
  • Control Freak
  • Perfectionist
  • Micro-manager